Loneliness is an inside struggle

In a world where we have the most connection through Iphones, Facetime, Skype, text, Facebook, and live videos why are many feeling more alone than ever?

Things I was pondering today:

What is the cure for loneliness?

What is the loneliness prescription?

We can feel lonely even when we are among a crowd of people. Some people are married and can feel alone within their marriage or partnership.

Primal wounds say “I am separate from you”

People can feel alone when they are in a crowd, and also they can feel like they have to change who they are to fit in with everyone else. This causes a lot of pain and suffering. 

Paradox: From Dr Lissa Rankin, these are her words quoted:

“Healing loneliness is an inside job but we can’t do it alone, we need each other”

“Sometimes that may mean that we need a coach, or a therapist, or a spiritual counselor, and clergy. It starts with befriending yourself, as long as you are at war with yourself, with those inner voices, that may be telling you that you don’t belong. That your not loveable, that your not enough, that you don’t deserve to be part of a community, you’re going to have a hard time magnetizing the people that are right here to love you. We have to heal shame and perfectionism, not just in ourselves but how we relate to others. Because if I am in shame and I am hiding myself from you. If things need to be perfect then I am not allowing myself to be vulnerable with you and I am going to separate myself from you. And as long as I expect you to be perfect and I am going to judge you or criticize you if you do something that I don’t like, then I’m not going to be able to show up for you. We have to own our stuff and get out of our victim stories. We have to quit saying it’s your fault, you did this to me, and then we create the story of separation.”

Here is also an article written by Gretchen Rubin in Psychology Today that I wanted to share: CLICK HERE to read article.

Owning patterns from childhood, recognize them and we can begin to understand where we separate ourselves from others which ends up with people feeling lonely.

Xo, 

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