Ouch, this one hits home because I HAVE broken promises to myself. Yet, I don’t want to beat myself up, rather, moving forward I choose to practice the self-love I teach to myself.
In a post earlier this week I shared “Because it’s the “small promises” that we break to ourself that sets an unhealthy unconscious pattern that whenever you set out to do something, you don’t believe yourself. It’s important that you don’t ever break that trust with yourself. I think of my kiddos when they were in High School and I always told them, “don’t lie to me, because once you do it’s harder to earn that trust back” and guess what? It’s no difference for yourself.”
As I go deep within, I think about when I do break promises with myself, that I am showing my kids that letting yourself down is acceptable.
As Dr. Dispenza shares in his book Evolve Your Brain – The Science of Changing Your Mind: “It makes sense that if most people maintain the same environment for long periods of their lives (where nothing new is happening or there is no change), the repeated stimuli will therefore produce the reactivation of associative neural networks, which will become more developed, strengthened, and refined. As a consequence of that lack of novelty in their environments and experiences, they have become hardwired to their own worlds. No wonder change is so difficult.” — Dr. Joe Dispenza from Evolve Your Brain – The Science of Changing Your Mind
So the next time you tell yourself that you are going to do something, write it down. Just doing that simple thing increases the chance that you will do it. Make it attainable, so even if that means that you make it in smaller chunks until you reach it, then do that. These two things will help you on your way to fulfilling the promises you make to yourself, because YOU MATTER. If your cup isn’t full, you have nothing to give.