It’s been so long since I have shared here, I have so much that I want to share and get caught up on, but I will break this into a few posts…. I have so much NEW IN MY LIFE right now, and although it will take some new adjustments with our schedules and stuff, I feel grateful. It’s exciting. And the title to this blog post?…. Let’s start with the google definition of the word exfoliate, “come apart or be shed from a surface in scales or layers.” Have you ever had your face exfoliated? It doesn’t always feel great when it’s getting done, but afterwards when the ‘dead skin’ peels and the new skin underneath is exposed to the fresh air, it’s the most amazing feeling! Your skin feels younger, more vibrant, and more clear. It’s the best word I could think of to describe what I want to share with you. I am sharing where I have been lately, and what I have been up to. Many of you have been reaching out asking about me and my business and what I’m up to….So I decided to share a blog with all of you. 🙂
I know many of us have the questions looming in our mind…. What am I here for? What, God, did you design me for? What is my Purpose? And many times it happens later in life, when you have a date with destiny. I think those questions are always a beautiful thing, because it is that gentle and subtle tap on our hearts that is reminding us to re-evaluate things. And I have had a summer where I have been ‘unplugged’ more than I ever have, especially since becoming an entrepreneur. My prayer for this blog today, is not only that I want all of you to know I have missed you, but that by sharing my experience with you, that you open up some soulfood and grace for your own life. Knowing and believing that no matter what, everything is on purpose serving a greater purpose, and I choose to believe it’s always for the good.
Do you ever catch yourself feeling or saying things like, Omgosh! I can’t believe it’s almost October! What? How did it get here so quick? Do you feel that life is moving so quickly that its as though you signed up to go watch the dolphins and somehow you got put on a speedboat and you find yourself going too fast to even see the dolphins, wondering how you got on THAT boat!?
I know right? Really lame analogy Je! (LOL) I can hear one of my friends saying that to me….
Jokes aside, to be honest, that is kind of how I was feeling. If I were honest, I would say that I have felt like I have been on that speed boat for a couple of years, and feeling like I thought I knew where I was going, but it turns out, I was driving super fast and it wasn’t leading me to where I thought I was going.
(Sorry, I just can’t help myself with the analogies today! Lol)
I, as many of us right now, have had a couple of years of craziness that has ranged from transformation, lots of change, shifts in routines, and just lots of distortion. I know I am not alone, as many of my clients have felt similiar. I found myself a few months ago realizing that I am the only one that can control the boat that I was in if I truly wanted it to stop, or I wanted to change directions. But, do I even know where I am going? Um, I thought I did….. hmmm, I had a lot of ‘stuff’ to sit with.
As these past few years I have been on some sort of crazy train, I have realized that God has been waiting for ME to ‘be still’. (Psalm 46:10) Nudging me to PEEL away the things that I thought ‘I needed to do’ to somehow feel that I was ‘doing the right things’. But really, who ever made those rules up anyway? You know those rules that place us in a box, which for me in my life, cuts out the flow of God being able to work in and lead my life. And interestingly enough, I had convinced myself I was ‘doing the right things’ for Him. It’s funny how our ‘rational mind’ can justify and manipulate our own psyche to believe what we want. For me, the vision of the boat became clearer as I allowed myself more time to be with Him and give Him the reign in my life. It can be a scary thing for a recovering control freak like myself…..
God, I surrender. Let your will be my will. I give you the wheel, just like Carrie Underwood says…
So, let’s land the plane, as my dear friend would say, so I want to get to sharing my disappearance act that many have felt from me. I went from doing consistent Facebook lives, and the daily Soulfood and Grace messages (which I actually miss….) and two Transformation TV shows a month…… to literally a cold turkey screeching stop! And this time, I didn’t go into panic mode or freak out. I did something different this time (so this means I’m not insane, right Einstein?)
I trusted God.
I knew He was taking things OFF of my plate to fill it with the things that gave Him glory but ultimately was ALSO my happy place. God knows what I need. I do too, but the world we live in can sometimes dull that inner knowing…. You know, that place where you and God meet. We get desensitized, and if we don’t ‘Be Still and Know’ then we can get lost…..
Anywhoooo….. I digress. So, as I began to peel things away (exfoliate), even the things I really enjoyed doing. And the things I was teaching my own clients to help them build their business, well, I ended up doing the opposite! And still, I trusted. So I closed my soul collective membership, thanked my students, clients, and stopped doing many of the things I was doing. With each thing I took away, I was revisiting the things that I used to love doing…. I was actually beginning to do what I was coaching others on. What are the things you LOVE TO DO? What makes you excited to wake up everyday? If it were your last day on earth, what would you want to do?
Thank you God, for this reminder. You are so good.
So, I played. A LOT. With family and friends, with my hubby, and the kiddos (even our grown ones in Idaho). We took a family vacation to Florida and laughed a lot. My son got to hold a baby alligator and for the first time he was tall enough to drive his own race car to try to beat his Dad and I. (If you ask my hubby, he would say he was the winner, I only remember him winning once… but whose counting? LOL) We played lots of cards, I used to love to play rummy – and I don’t know why I ever stopped playing… we even had some new games like headbands. (If you haven’t tried that one, it’s a fun one for the family!) We ate our favorite things and began to even change some family routines. We literally evaluated every aspect of our life and what we were doing.
I started hot yoga again, (whoa that is a blog on its own!) and found some gyms so I could go play some racquetball. (Before I teach my son, I need to strengthen my game haha!) We went golfing, and plan to do more of it, and I even went to the shooting range with my hubs…. And it’s not just about the fun stuff I was doing; I began this process in my business too. Because thinking back when I first started as an entrepreneur, it was so fun and I woke up each day feeling like I had to pinch myself because it didn’t feel like work. Well, over time, I began to do things to make other people happy, doing things because it’s what business coaches are telling you to do, and without realizing it, I began doing it their way, doing it like ‘I’m supposed to’ and soon I found myself out of alignment for what I do know to be TRUE…. And that is….
When you are doing things that make you happy, you ultimately are making others happy, and others also want to join in on the happiness….. Which in turn, creates the abundance.
Yes, I am a firm believer we need those soul sisters and brothers willing to stand with you and help you stand sometimes when you need a hand, and also laugh with you when you make a mistake. And I personally believe we all need coaches and mentors to help you call you on your sh** when you are hiding in your own life, or when you want to make excuses. And also there to help you find easier ways, or the answers that you are seeking to help make life easier, but all the while, STAY IN ALIGNMENT with YOUR TRUTH. No matter what. Because a great friend or coach will support you where you are at. Because it’s never about who is right and who is wrong…
As an entrepreneur if you step into who God has created you to be and express your gifts authentically and unapologetically, then you will make the biggest impact without even trying. And in the process you will feel good about it, which puts a smile on your face. I always knew that and somehow forgot one of my superpowers.
So, one final thing before I end this long post, that I also somehow let the world tell me that I needed to pick “one or the other” (I will explain what I mean in the next blog post). That I could only be good at one thing and that it’s the opposite of the other thing. Turns out, I must be a unicorn (who woulda thought), because I happen to be really good at both. So what does that mean? It simply means…..I’m ME, and for sure that is exactly what that means. I don’t have to ask permission or even try to find people like me, cuz there isn’t anyone like me.
I know that all sounded super vague, but if I were to share today, it would be way too long of a post, and it’s already long enough so I will give you a break for today. 🙂 But I will be sharing very soon about what these “two things” are that, in our world, can make people feel that you have to ‘choose sides’ or if you are one, it means you are not the other. And I am kind of chuckling to myself because I really believe it’s not going to even be what everyone will be thinking… at all. Although it did give me an idea to expand more on this topic!
But the amazing blessing that came to me from all of this?
God helped me see who He created me to be. I felt after writing my book ‘Who were you before the world told you who to be’ that I had stepped into that woman, but it turns out it I had just opened the door to her. And she (me) is still learning, and growing, and giving herself grace and most importantly giving God the wheel. He has slowed the speedboat down, and now instead of only seeing ocean in the distance, there are options, and I see beauty and land, and I am reminded once again, everything is on purpose for a purpose. My ‘detour’ in the speedboat was incredibly intentional, and needed. It helped me expand grace more, and helped me to remember the important things. And my ‘why’.
Today, may grace come into your life and…
you remember to slow down and …..
Smell the roses…..
Take time with your loved ones……
Look in their eyes and really listen with your heart as well as your ears…..
Do things that make you smile, and laugh so contagiously that when people hear you it changes their day in the most beautiful way…..
Give yourself permission to do things backwards, just because……
Be a rule breaker for a day, just don’t hurt any one or anything in the process. But challenge why you are doing what you are doing. You may unlock a blessing…..
In everything you do, look for the things that God is doing FOR your life not TO your life. It will be an incredible perspective shift….
And most importantly, today, I hope that you know that….
God created you in His image to be incredible, not perfect, and exactly how He made you, from your silly laugh or your crazy hair, that…. You’re pretty dang amazing! Don’t let anything less than that word define you, even on your bad days.
More to come soon, as I am so excited to share my new world with you.
I am still in master creation mode (omgosh it’s so much fun!) But I know that it will make many of you smile too!
I love you,
Much love, prayers and some sparkles and sunshine!
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