Is worrying affecting you or debilitating you in your life? In today’s Dream Big Noon-Spiration I shared about how worrying can really affect your life, your motivation, and your health!
This topic was inspired today from an email I received from one of the sisters in our Sisterhood Connections, and although I am going to share the email, I am leaving her name anonymous per her request. Worrying is something that many people struggle with. Some more than others, yet it’s a human emotion that I would say everyone has experienced at least once or twice even if they feel like they don’t worry.
Take a couple of minutes out of your day right now and take some deep breaths, set your intentions (mindfulness) and connect to your inspirations (Heart/God flow).
Connect: Do you currently worry about things that really are out of your control? To what degree do you worry? Don’t judge yourself, today focus on that forgiveness. The awareness is here that you may do that, and now take this moment to just forgive yourself. Acknowledge and accept, and then you can move through the emotion so you can change the outcome. What would you like to accomplish from today and going into the next week? Connect to that, think about it and now bring your awareness into your heart and ask yourself for a solution to accomplish what it is that you just thought. Let that go and see what comes forward in the next few days!
Email from one of my listeners:
I was listening to your soul whisper the other day on worry, and this really resonated with me. Now that I have become a mom I worry about everything. I notice sometimes it actually makes me feel sick to my stomach and then I begin worrying about the unnecessary stress I am causing in my body and hope I am not creating disease. Hearing your message the other day made me realize that I worry so much I find myself cycling into an unhealthy routine all in my mind but it is affecting me. I was hoping you would talk about that in one of your live videos. Thank you so much.
When I read this email it reminded me of a book that I have shared before, and I think it’s really an incredibly easy technique that I have found that really works. The book is called The 5-Second Rule by Mel Robbins.
From The book “The 5-Second Rule“: “Worrying is the default setting that your mind goes to when you’re not paying attention the key is catching yourself when you drift into worry and then regaining mental control by using the rule. I’m going to give you an example because it happens all day long to you. My husband recently got his motorcycle license he just bought a small used motorcycle. Yesterday I was sitting inside the house and I noticed him on the bike pulling out of driveway. As he drove down the road I noticed, my mind immediately drifted into worry. I started to wonder if he would get hit by car, I wondered if he would become a statistic, I started worrying uh oh, I’m going to get a phone call from the police telling me he’s been in an accident. The worry, literally hijacked my mind within five seconds, it was that fast, and you know what? My worrying, it’s not gonna keep him safe and it certainly is not going to prevent an accident. I was standing in our house and he was out on the bike. What happens with worry is that the worrying kills me, it doesn’t kill Chris. My worrying just put me on edge for the entire time Chris is out riding his motorcycle. And you know what that does? It doesn’t protect him, it robs me of enjoying my life. Now, as soon as I catch myself worrying I go right to the 5-second rule, give myself the 54321 and then I force myself to think of something more positive, like that thought of him smiling as he drives down the road. Here’s The funny thing, Chris, my husband he’s a humongous cyclist, I think I have told you earlier in the book that he is a half Ironman, he also is the race director for the triathlon in our hometown and he is out of his bike and a nice day guys are riding 50-60 miles, constantly training, and he is always by himself. Now what’s interesting I never worry about that, I don’t know why my mind just never drifts there. But here I was standing in my office, he’s driving the motorcycle 10 miles an hour down our road, cuz he is trying to teach himself how to shift the gears, there are more turkeys on our road than actual cars the chances of him getting hit, zero! Now the thing though, is that worrying takes over when you’re not even paying attention. It happened the other day, again. Our daughters were returning from a service trip to Peru and throughout the day I just caught my mind drift. I would be sitting there at my desk reading an email and all of the sudden I would start thinking about a plane crash. I would be thinking about a missed flight, I would be thinking about them falling off the cliff in the Andes, I would be thinking about a bus going back and forth on a switchback and tumbling off, with lost bags, the girls being kidnapped, I mean it was ridiculous. The girls were fine. And without the rule, it would have ruined my day. Here they were coming back from a trip to Peru, and here I was suffering at my desk. But every time I caught myself drifting off into a bad thought, I would say to myself No, no, no, I’m not doing that. 5,4,3,2,1. And I would point to a thought that would make me smile.”